Since working with Jessie in October, I’ve had a really significant shift in my life - in how I feel emotionally, in how I experience situations, and in how I think about myself and the world. And I want to share this with you, because if you’re anything like I was a few months ago, you probably believe – without even realising it – that your life is created by what happens to you. By what people do, what people say, what goes wrong, what doesn’t work out, what you wish were different.

What I can see now, really clearly, is that my life - and your life - is created through our thinking. Our thoughts feel so real. They feel like life itself. They feel like facts. But they are separate from us. And if they are separate from us, then we don’t have to be dictated by them.

One of the biggest realisations for me has been seeing that my thoughts are created by me. Someone else could go through the exact same experience I’ve had and walk away with completely different thoughts, different meanings and different emotions. And yet those thoughts are what shape our reality. Our consciousness brings those thoughts to life and makes them feel real. When you really understand this, not just on a surface or intellectual level, but from a deep, quiet knowing inside, everything starts to change for the better. You feel calmer, more at ease, and life doesn’t feel quite so heavy anymore. You begin to see that it’s never the external event itself that is making you feel the way you do - it’s your thinking about that event and your consciousness making it feel real.

I honestly can’t explain how much of an impact this deeper understanding has had on my life. It’s opened me up to new possibilities, new experiences and new connections in a way I never felt available to me before. I move through life differently now. I make choices with less fear and less second-guessing. I worry far less about what other people think, not because I’ve stopped caring about people, but because I finally trust what feels right for me. I do things because they matter to me, because something deeper inside knows they’re right, not because I’m chasing approval or trying to avoid judgement. And that is incredibly freeing. When I look back at who I was just three months ago, I can genuinely feel the difference in myself. I’m less stressed, more open, and more peaceful overall, and other people and external situations don’t have anywhere near the same power over how I feel as they used to.

That doesn’t mean I never have difficult feelings anymore. Of course I do. Big emotions still come up. Sadness, overwhelm, self-doubt, and moments where things feel heavy still happen, because that’s part of being human. The difference now is that I don’t see those feelings as a problem that needs fixing, or as a sign that something is wrong with my life. I know they are being created by my thinking in that moment - sometimes by thoughts I’m not even fully aware of - and I also know they will pass. They always do. When I feel low or unsettled now, I don’t cling to it or analyse it in the same way, because I understand that it doesn’t actually mean anything about me or my future. It’s just a temporary experience created by unhelpful or unhealthy thinking, and it will move on.

Last Friday is a good example of this. I suddenly felt sad for a while because an image popped into my head of someone looking overwhelmed and unhappy. Before, I would have taken that as a sign that something was wrong, that I needed to act on it, fix something or work it out. This time, I simply noticed that it was just an image in my mind. A snapshot. A thought. It wasn’t reality in that moment. It didn’t mean anything. It was only creating a feeling because my mind and consciousness were bringing it to life. So I didn’t try to change it or push it away. I just carried on with my day. And without me doing anything at all, it passed. Later on, I realised I didn’t feel that way anymore.

When you stop treating every thought as a fact, and stop assuming that your mind is always telling you something important, life becomes lighter. Not flawless, not without challenges, but lighter, freer, and more present.

If there’s one thing I really hope you take from this, it’s this: your reality is created through your thinking, but your thoughts are only your version of life. They are not life itself. They don’t define you. They don’t tell you who you are. When you begin to truly see that, feelings stop being quite so overwhelming. They stop feeling like emergencies. They become temporary experiences that come and go - and in that space, you finally realise that nothing is wrong with you, nothing needs fixing, and you are already free to live your life from who you truly are, not from what your mind happens to say in any given moment. 🩷