In my recent post, I talked about women trying to hold it all together and often putting themselves last. I know it’s not just women, but that’s where I relate - and that’s who I usually talk to: working mums juggling kids, careers, and… well, life in general.

Recently, I caught up with a guy I hadn’t seen in a while, and I asked how he was doing. What he shared was deeply personal. I won’t go into details because it’s not my story to tell, but he’s been carrying a lot for years - the one holding it all together.

It reminded me that everyone has struggles. Invisible struggles. Things they carry quietly, tucked away where no one else can see. On the outside, they might look like they’ve got it all together - they’re smiling, keeping up appearances, handling life like nothing’s wrong. But on the inside… they’re carrying something heavy, something that takes a toll every single day.

It’s the kind of weight that drains your energy and steals your peace of mind, even if no one else can see it. I’m grateful that this person trusted me enough to share what they were going through. It takes courage to open up.

If you’re going through something hard, I hope you’ll reach out and talk to someone. Even sharing a little can lighten the load. It helps you realise that you’re not alone - others are facing struggles too. They might not be the same as yours, and everyone’s situation is different, but everyone has something they’re dealing with, whatever that may be.

Sometimes we think everyone else has it all together, but the truth is, they don’t. They’re just like you: human, doing the best they can. You’re not failing by struggling, by needing help, or by admitting it’s hard. Everyone else isn’t “okay” all the time - you just don’t see the parts where they aren’t.

Give yourself some kindness. Give yourself grace. Take time for yourself. Don’t neglect your well-being, your health, or your peace. Connect with others, do what makes you feel better, even if it’s small. You deserve that. You really do.

And everyone - no matter who they are or how “fine” they seem - deserves the same: a little kindness, a little patience, and someone who asks, “Hey… how are you really doing?”

Whether it’s mums, dads, friends, colleagues, or anyone around you, we all carry invisible burdens - something that’s easy to forget when we can't see it. But offering a little compassion, a moment of understanding, or a simple check-in can mean more than you realise.

I want you to remember that you’re not alone. You’re not failing or doing anything wrong. You’re doing the best you can. And that's enough. 🩷