I wasn’t totally sure what I was going to write about today, so I thought I’d just start with some of the interactions I’ve had this week. One thing that really stood out to me was how different certain interactions can make you feel afterward.

I met with a new client for the first time on Friday, and his energy was instantly uplifting - genuinely warm, easygoing, and positive. There was something about his presence that made everything feel more manageable, like the weight of the day had been subtly lifted. I left the meeting feeling noticeably lighter.

Not long after, I had an encounter with someone who brought the complete opposite energy. They're not a client, nor someone I need to engage with - I rarely see them, and honestly, that’s probably for the best. The interaction left me feeling flat. To be completely honest, I find them pretty arrogant and superficial. The kind of person where, for my own peace of mind, it’s just easier - and healthier - to nod, smile, and move on.

Look, I’m not saying they’re a bad person. They’re just not for me. And to be fair, I'm probably not their sort of person either. And that's perfectly okay. What it highlighted for me is something simple but powerful - you’ve got to protect your energy.

Not everyone is meant for you. Some people lift you up, others weigh you down. And honestly, I’m at a point where I don’t have the time - or the interest - to entertain energy that doesn’t feel right. Especially when I can choose not to. 

Later that same day, I had a call with someone who was the complete opposite of draining. She was kind, open, appreciative, and just lovely to speak with. It reminded me of two important things:

1. I’m not for everyone, and I don’t have to be.

2. I want to focus my time and energy on the people I do connect with - the ones I can genuinely help, the ones who leave me feeling better after we’ve spoken. 

Because life’s always going to be a mix of people. Some who click with you, and some who don’t. That’s just how it is. The shift happens when you stop trying to force it with people who aren’t aligned - and instead start leaning into the places and people where things just flow.

I think I’m only just beginning to recognise what drains me, and I’m learning to step away from it, instead of saying yes to everything. It’s a process - I’m still a bit of a people-pleaser - but I’m becoming more aware of how important it is to protect my energy. Especially because there are things I want to do in life, and if I’m constantly depleted by things I don’t enjoy, I won’t have the energy to do what actually matters to me.

I guess this is what people mean when they talk about boundaries. And yeah… I’m learning to put them in place. Slowly, but finally.

Life’s too short to pour yourself into what depletes you, when there’s a world full of things that fill you up. 💗