This morning I did a virtual spin class and had one of those thoughts. You know the ones, the kind that make you pause and think, yeah… that’s something. A small but powerful revelation that made me feel genuinely good. 

The last few days I’ve really slowed down. January 2nd was my first client meeting of the year, but aside from that I haven’t worked much the last few days. I’ve had time to think, to reflect, and… I feel pretty calm.

Small Choices Over Big Dramas

There’s something pretty grounding about knowing I’m not trying to make huge, dramatic changes just because it’s a new year. No “new year, new me” hype, just small, intentional choices I'm trying to stick to most days.

I wrote down a list of habits to try and do every day. One of them is moving my body for 30 minutes, ideally in the morning, because it sets me up for the day. Today I felt pretty tired, but I went to the gym anyway, and I’m glad I did. 

After that I stretch and sit quietly for around five minutes (yep, another habit on my list). I focus on my breathing, slow everything down, and remind myself how lucky I am. I started doing this at the end of last year, and for me, it’s made a difference. It clears my head and sets the tone for the day.

Choosing Sobriety Because It Feels Right

And then there’s alcohol. I went sober from October, but over Christmas I started drinking again. Weirdly, I didn’t drink on Christmas Day or New Year’s Eve, but the drinking in the days between started creeping up. And I just had this thought that for me, it's not worth it. 

So yes, I’m choosing to be sober again. Not because I “should,” and not because it’s January, but because, deep down, I know it’s what’s right for me. For now, that simply means choosing not to drink, one day at a time.

Small Actions Matter

Instead of setting these big, overwhelming goals, maybe just give yourself small actions you can try to do each day. And if you miss a day? It genuinely doesn’t matter. You should expect to miss some days, that’s just life, right? You simply carry on the next day. No big deal.

The Big, Slightly Crazy Thought

I’ve had this idea in my head for a couple of years now. Little conversations, experiences, moments, they’ve all been adding to it slowly. And then yesterday, a client said something that reignited it completely.

It’s one of those ideas that’s so big and a little crazy that, honestly, I have no idea how or when it will happen. But for some reason… I genuinely believe it will. I know I can’t do it alone, but with the right people, I truly believe we can make it happen.

Like, if I told you what it was, you’d probably say, How on earth are you going to do that? That's impossible. You won't be able to do that. Not in this lifetime. Which is exactly why I voice-noted Jessie about it, she already knows I’m a bit mad!

Filter Out the Noise

Here’s what I’ve come to realise. So many people are held back by what others might say. What they might think. The judgement. The gossip. And if I’m honest, that’s held me back too, especially over the last few years.

You know Mel Robbins’ book, The Let Them Theory? I asked for it for my birthday last year and read it cover to cover. And yet… I still found myself getting caught up in the noise - other people’s opinions, their gossip, their assumptions. 

Look, I get that my own head didn’t always help - my thoughts probably made things harder at times. But deep down, you know. You know who and what disrupts your peace and who you need to step back from, who you need to remove from your life as much as possible. Choosing to surround myself with supportive, kind people has made a big difference. And of course, Jessie has helped too.

And now, about ten months after reading that book, I finally get it. People will think what they want, no matter what. They’ll make assumptions, criticise, judge or try to knock you off balance. But that’s their choice - not yours. You can’t control what others say, think, or do, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation. As long as you and your loved ones know the truth, nothing else really matters.

There will always be people who think it’s okay to spread untruths and stir drama. Come on, some literally make a living from it, spreading gossip and false stories about others (hello, Daily Mail). And then there are the ones who just bring negativity into your life. Sometimes you can’t escape it completely, maybe you live or work with them. But if you can step away from those who drain your energy, do it. Surround yourself with people who make you feel calm, safe, and supported. If someone or something consistently disrupts your peace, that’s your sign.

Focus on the Dream, Not the Noise ✨

It’s the big thoughts and bold ideas that matter - the vision, the thing you want to create. When you focus on that, all the noise fades into the background. It’s always there, sure, but it no longer controls you. The moment you realise it doesn’t matter, you stop taking it personally and start focusing on what truly counts.

That’s why it’s so important to step away from the noise whenever you can, and to recognise when it’s irrelevant. Nothing should stop you from chasing what you want, surrounding yourself with people who lift you up, and creating the impact you’re meant to make.

Big Picture Focus

When you focus on the bigger picture, your mind starts finding ways to get there. I've written down my vision on a sheet of paper and will look at it every morning - a reminder to stay focused on what's meaningful to me. Then I'll take small steps toward it: reaching out to people in the field, talking to others, researching how it could work. You don’t need to have all the answers right away. The mind figures it out when your focus stays clear and in front of you.

No matter how big or crazy your dreams feel, you’re allowed to have them. Put them front and centre. Focus on them. Enjoy the journey. And ignore the noise, the negativity, the rumours, the pointless chatter.

You have to really trust yourself. You don’t need to shout it out loud, just quietly, deeply believe that you can do it. Because if you don’t, you won’t even try. And even if you don’t reach the finish line, if you trusted yourself and gave it everything, at least you’ll have tried, and you won’t have any regrets.

I truly believe you can. I believe you can do anything if you trust yourself enough to drown out the irrelevant noise around you.

That noise will always exist. But when you protect your circle, trust wisely, and pour your energy into what lights you up instead of what wears you down - maybe, just maybe, your dreams find their way to you.

And you know what? That feels like freedom. 🩷