Hey, can I share something with you?

I think - well, I hope - it might help.

Remember when I told you I was feeling off? Not sick, just... low?

I shared that metaphor with you - the hot stove. The one Jessie told me about. How I kept holding onto it even though it was burning me, and I couldn’t understand why I was in so much pain. And then eventually, I let go. I stopped trying to control what I couldn’t.

And since then? I’ve actually been feeling better. Like, really better.

My mind feels calmer, quieter. For someone who's lived with a constant low hum of overthinking and pressure, having that kind of space? It’s a huge relief.

Nothing outside has changed - the work, the responsibilities, the unknowns. But my relationship to it all? That’s what’s shifted.

I started reminding myself - constantly - that my thoughts aren’t facts. They’re not rules. They’re just thoughts. Bits of energy that don’t have to mean anything.

I stopped giving them so much power. I loosened my grip and let life lead a little more.

And surprisingly? I’ve been getting more done. My focus is sharper. My energy isn't being drained by overthinking or overworking. I’m no longer running on empty.

The best part? Stepping back is actually helping my business grow. I’ve started reaching out, connecting with others, and finally outsourcing my paraplanning. It’s early days, but it feels like the real way forward - way better than trying to do it alone.

If I’d kept pushing like I was, the stress would’ve wrecked my health. I’m not exaggerating - chronic stress is no joke. But now, life feels lighter. I’m reconnecting with people. I’m enjoying everyday moments again.

I’m sharing this because I want you to feel lighter too - even when life feels heavy. Let’s be honest, life is hard. There’s always a curveball around the corner. And the everyday stuff? It adds up. The cost of living, a job you might not love just to stay afloat, kids eating through a week’s worth of food in two days, the car breaking down, the boiler failing, school struggles, juggling work and home... it’s a lot. 

I know you feel like you have to do it all. Keep it all together. Make sure everyone’s okay. But please - loosen your grip. Let life guide you a little. Because trying to control everything or make everything perfect? It’s exhausting. Like, really exhausting.

Take a breath. You don’t have to carry it all. Your thoughts? They’re just noise. You don’t have to believe every single one. Nothing is as urgent or terrifying as your mind makes it out to be.

Let your thoughts pass through. Let people be who they are. Let go of what you can’t control. Reach out if you need support - there are people out there who will help, even if asking feels hard. It’s worth it.

Most of all? Please - take your hand off the hot stove.

You’ll be okay. I promise. 🩷